Why men are hiding

Why men are hiding

As equality quite rightly allows people from all genders to have more opportunity, our ideas of what a man’s role in society has become ever more confusing, says practitioner Marcus Matthews.


He believes many dreams, goals, emotions and intentions as children all get pushed aside so we can live up to a lie.


Here he explains more...

We are trying to live in a world where the rules are changing and our deep subconscious feelings around what a man is are conflicted.

We are told it is ok to be vulnerable, but the truth is, it’s seen as weakness, because tradition and culture is subconsciously still in play..

Have we really evolved that much?

Maybe the mask on the outside but I would disagree on the inside, so WHY?

The F.E.A.R. Hold Up?

Procrastination is the action of delaying or postponing something. The word has origin from the Latin procrastinatus, which itself evolved from the prefix pro-, meaning "forward," and crastinus, meaning "of tomorrow."

Simply speaking it is a habit/excuse or intentional delay of starting or finishing a task, this often can manifest in blame and lack of self-ownership.

People often procrastinate when they are suffering because, to say they need help and go get that help will show them as being weak or vulnerable. In fact the opposite is true, but society will say different and we want to feel connected to the tribe, their opinions matter and subconsciously we need the tribe to survive.

Here are four key types of fear that people experience when it comes to procrastination. 

1.           Failure

2.           Expectations

3.           Abilities

4.           Regret

We fear that we will fail
We fear that it won't work.
We fear that expectations are too high or too low, or we have this expectation in our mind of what it should be, and we're scared that it won't be that.
We fear our abilities and doubt we have the actual skills and potential and techniques to reach people.

Then we feel regret.

We fear that, what if I do this, will I regret it?

What if I don't do this, will I regret it?”

Where does fear come from, how do we tackle it?

I often encounter people who are so stuck and they will either openly complain, get angry or bury that pain.

That need is catered for through distraction, food, alcohol, gambling, you name it - anything that will give temporary relief, but the feeling will always return.

These individuals are struggling with self-doubt and believe therapy won’t help them.

Often this is because people believe therapy looks a certain way and they don’t understand there are different tools that can help.

When it comes to procrastination and overthinking, we have to overcome our self-doubt, we have to go to the root cause, not when the trigger happened but when that feeling was first installed and that is the power of Rapid Transformational Therapy.


Breaking the Procrastination Pattern


Think of one big thing you are currently procrastinating about, putting off.

Whatever that big procrastination overthinking thing is, I want you to dive into it. When I say dive into, I mean, clear your whole weekend and spend your whole weekend thinking about this.

Write down what it is and then notice how you feel about tackling it.

Face the challenge head on and be honest with yourself about it.

Now that the issue has been identified, now ask yourself “Is this true”?

If the issue isn’t identified or you don’t know what to do, then you need to seek professional help, to get to the root cause and extract that feeling like a rotten tooth.


Understanding is power, power gives us choice and when we have choice we can resolve the issue in many ways.

My clients drew that line in the sand and took back control, they walked into the fear then noticed they had everything they needed already to tackle it.

So are you ready to draw a line in the sand?


Find out more at https://integralhealthshrewsbury.com/about-us/our-practitioners/marcus-matthews/ and book your free discovery call today

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The Centre for Integral Health was started in 2013 by director Ben Calder after studying Integral theory since 2011 and over 10 years of professional practice of kinesiology and Bowen fascia Release Technique, coupled with the desire to explore the application of the Integral Model in relation to health.

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